"In my eyes you can call me any name you would like, but paying child support is something that I will fight.  Not just now not just later but everyday, I refuse to pay child support to her okay.  I understand that's my child that I brought into the world, but I have something against paying this girl.  She wants to buy clothes and shoes instead of things for my kid, and I want to make her suffer for all the things that we did!"

Lets be honest with each other child support is a big topic and child support is also big business.  They found a way to get even the law abiding citizens in jail to work for free or slave wages.  On the other hand though, they found a way to make you dead beat fathers pay up and stay as uncomfortable as the family you helped to create.  Don't get me wrong when I say that a man is to provide that I am not saying that the woman she pay her way as well.  

I believe that every parent should pay their way, but I believe that the bigger burden should fall on the man.  That is our God given job so make sure that you provide and protect your family.  I was a single father for the bulk of my sons life so I know how it is to struggle to make things happen for your child or children and when I thought about my child's mother people would say put her on child support.  I couldn't do that though, because truth be told he was living better than his siblings that was with her.  I want you to understand that I know both sides of this argument.  I want you to understand who I am before you judge the title.  Yes I plan to never pay child support ever.....but I support my child.

I support my child physically. mentally, financially and spiritually.  I teach them, play ball with them, I raise them.  I talk to them about sex, drugs, alcohol.  I explain to them my mistakes and where I could have been because of them.  I explain why I was successful in certain areas and why I failed in others.  I support them in every way possible, but I will go to court everyday out of the week to ensure that I never have to be forced by the state to pay child support.  I will fight for my joint custody and pay any cost to ensure that I am just as much a part of my child's life as the mother.

If you can afford nike tennis shoes you can afford a lawyer.  Please don't put yourself in the cycle of losing everything you worked for because you can't afford a state mandated payment for a child that you see all the time and have with you all the time.  That is ridiculous, but for the dead beat dads I hope they bury you under debt until you take the time to understand that you need to be there supporting and loving your child.  I hope that they force you to do your job at a rough pace that forces your mentality to change so that you can start doing what you should had been doing from the beginning supporting your child instead of paying child support!

PD the CEO
JIG Music Group

When the days get long and the nights get longer, will your love become weak or will you maintain and become stronger.  What do you see when you look into her eyes, is she someone you will love always or someone you try not do despise.  Is she the apple in your eye or the lemonade through tough days, or the person you love the most and want to hear from everyday?

The poem stops and life starts.  I wonder where would I be without the people in my life who have taught me so many lessons on love and other things.  I wonder where I would be if I didn't submit to God and ask him to send me my true blessing.  Those questions lead me to ask you where are you now?  Do you love the one your with?  Are you single?  Are you happily single or pretending to be?  

This in no way is an attempt to get into your business, this is simply my way of saying look at your life.  Are you happy about where you are in love?  Is love something you even think about.  I found myself a few years back cursing love and wondering why it came to me in the form it did, only to realize that wasn't love, that was something that I put on myself knowing that I was wrong before I did it.  You can't fit a square into a round hole you have to let things go where they are supposed to.  

This isn't me preaching to the choir, I just want you to know that you can be whatever you want to be in love, you can have what you desire and find the one for you.  I am saying this not as an expert but as an example.  Losing everything I had in love, all of my faith in it and coming to where I am now fully surrounded by it tells me that it is possible for anyone.  Keep your head up and keep doing what it takes to be ready for a love that can last the test of time.

Juan "PD" Phillips
CEO of JIG Music Group